Relationship > Task. This is a phrase I have written on my white board near my desk. It’s one I’ve brought into my work with clients— young people and parents. It’s one I return to often in my own processing. Major thanks to my therapist for introducing this language and co-creating a container for me to explore and embody this concept.
Parents are worried that their teens are spending too much time in their rooms with the door shut, often on screens, and teens are doing their best to figure out how to stay connected and engaged during these strange times.
Many young adults I’ve worked with have described this time as a sort of in-between or limbo experience. I can relate to that when I think back to my late teens and early 20s.
Sometimes stuff just feels hard. And in this space of challenge, you may want or need to get the damn thing done.
Alright, so we are 17 months into this pandemic (but who's counting?!), and I am personally experiencing some new, yet familiar, waves of grief and fear. As I talk to friends, colleagues, and clients, I am hearing that I am not alone in this.
Sometimes our brains take us into the realm of extremes, the place of all or nothing thinking. This way of thinking is often quite harsh and not compassionate. These are…
You are probably already doing some things that show self-compassion. The key is to be mindful and aware of how and what you’re telling yourself when you’re going through a hard time.
This is an invitation to notice the thoughts you are choosing today and every day. Do your best to observe the thoughts gently, kindly.
When you hear the word gratitude, what thoughts/feelings/beliefs come to mind? When you hear the word appreciation, what thoughts/feelings/beliefs come to mind?
You have permission to honor your birthday any way you'd like. In simple ways, grand ways, solitary ways, in crowded ways, and any other way YOU choose.