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How To Make Your Holidays Peaceful And Easeful

How To Make Your Holidays Peaceful And Easeful

  • Post author:Courtney Harris Coaching
  • Post published:December 10, 2019
  • Post category:Self-Care for Parents
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No matter where you fall on the spectrum of stress and ease as you anticipate the next event, intention-setting can be a powerful practice. Intentions will support you in staying clear and grounded both individually and as a family.

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How to Make Tough Family Conversations Successful

How to Make Tough Family Conversations Successful

  • Post author:Courtney Harris Coaching
  • Post published:December 11, 2018
  • Post category:Quick Connection Tips / Restorative Practices for Families / Uncategorized
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As you engage in tough and important conversations, these 3 tools will help you make a successful connection.

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Hello friends, How are you? Really, how are you? Hello friends, How are you? Really, how are you? Whether you'd like to reply back to me or not, I invite you to take a few moments to check in with yourself. Take a few nourishing breaths. Take a few more moments to notice the quality of your heart, your mind, and your body. Notice: Does your body want to move? Do you want to make any sounds or vocalizations? Do you need water or a snack? Is there something you can do to make yourself even 5% more comfortable? This kind of check-in is seemingly simple, but the wisdom of our bodies and minds can really come through when we take the time to slow down. As I sat down to write my latest email, I realized that I hadn't checked in with myself for a few hours. I got busy catching up on work after taking 4 days off, and I was allowing the energy of "do-do-do" and "work-work-work" propel me. So thanks for joining me in a brief, yet spacious, pause. It turns out that's the whole message for today... a moment for us to pause and be with ourselves, together, across the internet. With care and compassion, <3 Courtney
This post was originally published on September 17 This post was originally published on September 17, 2019. I’m resharing this year, the week of my 35th birthday. While pandemic birthdays may look and feel different than other birthdays, the sentiment of this blog remains the same. We all get to decide how/when/where we want to be celebrated on our birthdays. Link in bio to read!
Hello friends, Over the weekend, I met up with so Hello friends, Over the weekend, I met up with some of my dear business colleagues and friends via Zoom for a writing session all about freedom. Our facilitator, @toimarie, led us through 2 different prompts on the topic. Not only did we have time to vision and feel into what freedom really means to each of us, we also got to share our writing with one another. Having an audience or a witness can be a vulnerable AND powerful experience. At once, we can feel totally raw and exposed, AND we can know that we are not alone in our joys and our pains. Receiving my friends-- their words, wisdom, and hearts-- and allowing them to see and hear me, reminded me of how important both giving and receiving are in the human experience. In some seasons of life, we will have more to give, and in other seasons we will need to be held more tightly. And, through it all, we need to give AND receive, witness AND be witnessed, hold AND be held. If you are drawn to this topic, DM me for the link to a past blog about giving and receiving as self-care. With love (and a hug if you consent), <3 Courtney
Really appreciating this timely guest blog by @the Really appreciating this timely guest blog by @thespainmellc! "Reading our books not only offered entertainment and education, but they also offered insight to our own circumstances, helped us to grow personally, and to connect with the books’ characters. Over time, I have seen the power of reading and book clubs. Not only have the discussions been intellectually stimulating, but the meetings have helped us to listen deeply to each other, offer support, and respect each other’s experiences and viewpoints. Together, we have discussed books that introduce concepts and strategies to cope with uncertainty and the constant changes in our lives." Link in bio to read the whole piece.
Back to school season is here. As we all navigate Back to school season is here. As we all navigate this transition, I want to take some time to address the pressure our children and teens are facing. Several teens I have the honor of working with have named increased anxiety around performance. They are feeling pressure to be perfect... Pressure to take all the AP classes, to do all the extracurriculars, to get into the "right" colleges, to look "good" and trendy, to post "cool" things on social media, to come across as talkative but not annoying, and so on. Stop. Breathe. Feel. Notice what thoughts and feelings are coming up for you. Maybe you've heard these phrases or similar ones directly from your teenager. Maybe not. Maybe you, too, have faced similar pressures; I sure have! In any case, I share this to give you some insight into what many teens are thinking and feeling. When you offer feedback to your teen, imagine lifting them up, supporting them, rather than hovering over them or adding extra pressure. When you speak from this intention and awareness, your words will be better received, which will hopefully add to their sense of ease and trust in themselves. As always, I am here if you or your teen would like support during this transition. With deep compassion, <3 Courtney
Me and Coaching Cat. We are here and ready to witn Me and Coaching Cat. We are here and ready to witness you! 😻😻
This blog is for teens and young adults who are pa This blog is for teens and young adults who are participating in virtual learning this year. (And/or adults who are working from home!) When you are living and going to school in the same space, all day, every day, you don’t have as many transitions as you did with in-person school. Without transitions, our energy can sometimes get stagnant. Thus, it is important to take breaks and create transitions. Keep reading on the blog or ideas for taking breaks during the school (or work) day! Link in bio, as always.
When you feel uncomfortable about someone else's i When you feel uncomfortable about someone else's identity, it's often about you, not them. If you feel defensive, confused, angry, or turned off by someone else’s “different” identity/identities, take a pause. Instead of imposing your feelings on the other person, instead of asking 97 aggressive questions, take some time to be with your discomfort. Then, resource and educate yourself. Consider what biases you might be holding. Consider which oppressive systems may have taught you to default to judgment. Consider what information you are lacking in order to understand them and/or their identities.
I typically publish my latest blog and write to my I typically publish my latest blog and write to my email list each Tuesday. Welp, there's no new blog this week. I couldn't pull it off after attending a birth for 24 hours from Sunday to Monday.

Part of me felt frustrated about breaking my blog streak-- hello perfectionism! Part of me thought I shouldn't even send an email because it's all or nothing, and I was already missing the blog-- hello not-enoughness! Then, a compassionate and wise part of me showed up and realized how important it is to both acknowledge my consistency and practice flexibility.

So for anyone else who needs to hear this, it's okay to fall out of routine sometimes. It's human to let balls drop occasionally. It's necessary to go with the flow because circumstances change. We can give attention and energy to our rituals and routines, while also cultivating flexibility.

Next time life calls you to be flexible, I invite you to join me in this practice.  * Take a pause. * Celebrate the ways the routines and rituals have been serving you. * Acknowledge how you've been showing up. * Remind yourself that adapting to what is present right now is valid. Here's my example: "Dang! Publishing a blog each week is a big goal, and I'm so proud of all the cool pieces I've put into the world. Today, I don't have the energy to finish the process, and that's okay. I need the extra time to rest and prepare for clients."

Love being human with you,
💖Courtney
I have reached peak decision fatigue recently. It' I have reached peak decision fatigue recently. It's hard to decide what to eat, how to spend my time, how to arrange my schedule, and so on. Is anyone else having similar feelings? While working with a birthing client last weekend, I shared a tool can be helpful in navigating a decision-making process. This tool (a simple acronym) can be helpful in a wide range of decisions. Thus, I'm sharing it with you all: B enefits R isks A lternatives N othing (as in "What if I do nothing?") D ecision Parents, as you are navigating decisions, such as creating a quaran-team, whether your kid will go to in-person school, or a career change), you can sift through the information using BRAND. There might be places where you need more information or need to spend more time brainstorming and visioning. As you work through each step of BRAND, notice what feelings are coming up + what you feel drawn to or repelled by. Finally, give yourself a bit of time to make the decision (if it's possible). Bonus: Teens and young adults can also use (and enjoy) this tool, so I invite you to share it with them the next time they are seeking support in making a decision. Right there with you, <3 Courtney
So many people are navigating tough decisions righ So many people are navigating tough decisions right now. (Are you nodding your head?!) This is an invitation to pause and acknowledge yourself for the ways you are showing up for yourself and/or your family as you work through complicated shit. I see you!
This week’s guest blog by my dear friend heathcl This week’s guest blog by my dear friend heathcliff lópez is a beautiful, creative letter to young people, and those fortunate enough to say young-at-heart! It’s all about honoring and growing your ideas. “your thoughts about things matter, especially your thoughts about things that make you happy. the world around you might understand you, or it might not, but what’s important is that YOU understand that YOU matter. your thinking matters. who you are and what you contribute to this world matters. it may not always feel like it, but that’s the honest truth. i keep finding my voice in new ways throughout my life because deep down, i let myself truly believe that, even when it’s the hardest thing.” Read the whole letter! Link in bio.
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Hello friends, How are you? Really, how are you? Hello friends, How are you? Really, how are you? Whether you'd like to reply back to me or not, I invite you to take a few moments to check in with yourself. Take a few nourishing breaths. Take a few more moments to notice the quality of your heart, your mind, and your body. Notice: Does your body want to move? Do you want to make any sounds or vocalizations? Do you need water or a snack? Is there something you can do to make yourself even 5% more comfortable? This kind of check-in is seemingly simple, but the wisdom of our bodies and minds can really come through when we take the time to slow down. As I sat down to write my latest email, I realized that I hadn't checked in with myself for a few hours. I got busy catching up on work after taking 4 days off, and I was allowing the energy of "do-do-do" and "work-work-work" propel me. So thanks for joining me in a brief, yet spacious, pause. It turns out that's the whole message for today... a moment for us to pause and be with ourselves, together, across the internet. With care and compassion, <3 Courtney
This post was originally published on September 17 This post was originally published on September 17, 2019. I’m resharing this year, the week of my 35th birthday. While pandemic birthdays may look and feel different than other birthdays, the sentiment of this blog remains the same. We all get to decide how/when/where we want to be celebrated on our birthdays. Link in bio to read!
Hello friends, Over the weekend, I met up with so Hello friends, Over the weekend, I met up with some of my dear business colleagues and friends via Zoom for a writing session all about freedom. Our facilitator, @toimarie, led us through 2 different prompts on the topic. Not only did we have time to vision and feel into what freedom really means to each of us, we also got to share our writing with one another. Having an audience or a witness can be a vulnerable AND powerful experience. At once, we can feel totally raw and exposed, AND we can know that we are not alone in our joys and our pains. Receiving my friends-- their words, wisdom, and hearts-- and allowing them to see and hear me, reminded me of how important both giving and receiving are in the human experience. In some seasons of life, we will have more to give, and in other seasons we will need to be held more tightly. And, through it all, we need to give AND receive, witness AND be witnessed, hold AND be held. If you are drawn to this topic, DM me for the link to a past blog about giving and receiving as self-care. With love (and a hug if you consent), <3 Courtney
Really appreciating this timely guest blog by @the Really appreciating this timely guest blog by @thespainmellc! "Reading our books not only offered entertainment and education, but they also offered insight to our own circumstances, helped us to grow personally, and to connect with the books’ characters. Over time, I have seen the power of reading and book clubs. Not only have the discussions been intellectually stimulating, but the meetings have helped us to listen deeply to each other, offer support, and respect each other’s experiences and viewpoints. Together, we have discussed books that introduce concepts and strategies to cope with uncertainty and the constant changes in our lives." Link in bio to read the whole piece.
Back to school season is here. As we all navigate Back to school season is here. As we all navigate this transition, I want to take some time to address the pressure our children and teens are facing. Several teens I have the honor of working with have named increased anxiety around performance. They are feeling pressure to be perfect... Pressure to take all the AP classes, to do all the extracurriculars, to get into the "right" colleges, to look "good" and trendy, to post "cool" things on social media, to come across as talkative but not annoying, and so on. Stop. Breathe. Feel. Notice what thoughts and feelings are coming up for you. Maybe you've heard these phrases or similar ones directly from your teenager. Maybe not. Maybe you, too, have faced similar pressures; I sure have! In any case, I share this to give you some insight into what many teens are thinking and feeling. When you offer feedback to your teen, imagine lifting them up, supporting them, rather than hovering over them or adding extra pressure. When you speak from this intention and awareness, your words will be better received, which will hopefully add to their sense of ease and trust in themselves. As always, I am here if you or your teen would like support during this transition. With deep compassion, <3 Courtney
Me and Coaching Cat. We are here and ready to witn Me and Coaching Cat. We are here and ready to witness you! 😻😻
This blog is for teens and young adults who are pa This blog is for teens and young adults who are participating in virtual learning this year. (And/or adults who are working from home!) When you are living and going to school in the same space, all day, every day, you don’t have as many transitions as you did with in-person school. Without transitions, our energy can sometimes get stagnant. Thus, it is important to take breaks and create transitions. Keep reading on the blog or ideas for taking breaks during the school (or work) day! Link in bio, as always.
When you feel uncomfortable about someone else's i When you feel uncomfortable about someone else's identity, it's often about you, not them. If you feel defensive, confused, angry, or turned off by someone else’s “different” identity/identities, take a pause. Instead of imposing your feelings on the other person, instead of asking 97 aggressive questions, take some time to be with your discomfort. Then, resource and educate yourself. Consider what biases you might be holding. Consider which oppressive systems may have taught you to default to judgment. Consider what information you are lacking in order to understand them and/or their identities.
I typically publish my latest blog and write to my I typically publish my latest blog and write to my email list each Tuesday. Welp, there's no new blog this week. I couldn't pull it off after attending a birth for 24 hours from Sunday to Monday.

Part of me felt frustrated about breaking my blog streak-- hello perfectionism! Part of me thought I shouldn't even send an email because it's all or nothing, and I was already missing the blog-- hello not-enoughness! Then, a compassionate and wise part of me showed up and realized how important it is to both acknowledge my consistency and practice flexibility.

So for anyone else who needs to hear this, it's okay to fall out of routine sometimes. It's human to let balls drop occasionally. It's necessary to go with the flow because circumstances change. We can give attention and energy to our rituals and routines, while also cultivating flexibility.

Next time life calls you to be flexible, I invite you to join me in this practice.  * Take a pause. * Celebrate the ways the routines and rituals have been serving you. * Acknowledge how you've been showing up. * Remind yourself that adapting to what is present right now is valid. Here's my example: "Dang! Publishing a blog each week is a big goal, and I'm so proud of all the cool pieces I've put into the world. Today, I don't have the energy to finish the process, and that's okay. I need the extra time to rest and prepare for clients."

Love being human with you,
💖Courtney
I have reached peak decision fatigue recently. It' I have reached peak decision fatigue recently. It's hard to decide what to eat, how to spend my time, how to arrange my schedule, and so on. Is anyone else having similar feelings? While working with a birthing client last weekend, I shared a tool can be helpful in navigating a decision-making process. This tool (a simple acronym) can be helpful in a wide range of decisions. Thus, I'm sharing it with you all: B enefits R isks A lternatives N othing (as in "What if I do nothing?") D ecision Parents, as you are navigating decisions, such as creating a quaran-team, whether your kid will go to in-person school, or a career change), you can sift through the information using BRAND. There might be places where you need more information or need to spend more time brainstorming and visioning. As you work through each step of BRAND, notice what feelings are coming up + what you feel drawn to or repelled by. Finally, give yourself a bit of time to make the decision (if it's possible). Bonus: Teens and young adults can also use (and enjoy) this tool, so I invite you to share it with them the next time they are seeking support in making a decision. Right there with you, <3 Courtney
So many people are navigating tough decisions righ So many people are navigating tough decisions right now. (Are you nodding your head?!) This is an invitation to pause and acknowledge yourself for the ways you are showing up for yourself and/or your family as you work through complicated shit. I see you!
This week’s guest blog by my dear friend heathcl This week’s guest blog by my dear friend heathcliff lópez is a beautiful, creative letter to young people, and those fortunate enough to say young-at-heart! It’s all about honoring and growing your ideas. “your thoughts about things matter, especially your thoughts about things that make you happy. the world around you might understand you, or it might not, but what’s important is that YOU understand that YOU matter. your thinking matters. who you are and what you contribute to this world matters. it may not always feel like it, but that’s the honest truth. i keep finding my voice in new ways throughout my life because deep down, i let myself truly believe that, even when it’s the hardest thing.” Read the whole letter! Link in bio.
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