While experiencing a pretty intense emotional reaction, I remembered a powerful truth: I AM NOT MY FAMILY. Their thoughts, behaviors, and actions do not belong to me, do not define me, and do not limit me.
Limits don’t negate choices. Limits aren’t consequences or punishment. Instead, limits help young people understand boundaries-- their own and other people’s.
The truth is, dreams come from one’s internal compass, not from external sources, pressures, or societal norms and expectations. Furthermore, teenagers need space to explore, reflect, experience, and process and come to their own truths, their own path.
When (not if) your teen presents an undesirable behavior or seems "shut down", you have an opportunity to ASK about it, rather than telling them about (aka lecturing them).
As you consider your experience with change and prepare for continued transition and evolution, these 10 tips will help you embrace the changes in your past, present, and future!
Growth is not linear; it's a spiral. You’ll hit bumps and potholes and swerve off the path from time to time, and this is just a part of the process. As you complete each revolution of the spiral, there will be challenges and struggles.
When (not if) you make a “mistake,” you have an “opportunity to repair” the connection with your teenager.
Do you ever feel like you’re having the SAME conversation, argument or breakdown with your teen or tween over and over again?
When we look at the “both/and” of a situation, we allow ourselves to know that life is full of paradoxes. A paradox is a statement or situation that appears to contradict itself.
The phrase “taking up space” has been a big topic of conversation in my coaching practice. In sessions, I often ask clients to consider questions like: "What part of you do you want to be seen today?" or "Is there a part of you that needs to be heard today?" Sometimes, I ask, "How can you let yourself know that you belong anywhere you are?"