Relationship > Task. This is a phrase I have written on my white board near my desk. It’s one I’ve brought into my work with clients— young people and parents. It’s one I return to often in my own processing. Major thanks to my therapist for introducing this language and co-creating a container for me to explore and embody this concept.
Parents are worried that their teens are spending too much time in their rooms with the door shut, often on screens, and teens are doing their best to figure out how to stay connected and engaged during these strange times.
The idea of “not enough” is a manifestation of lack mentality or scarcity mentality. When your thinking is focused on the ways that something or someone is “not _____ enough,” you are stuck in scarcity thinking.
when we take the time to feel and then reach out to a trusting, loving other, connection can grow. I also find that when I open up and let someone know I care, I feel like my most authentic self.
Values are beliefs that guide my actions. They are at the foundation of my intentional choices and behaviors. In other words, values can be things I hold pretty near and dear.
Friendship qualms, questions, concerns, and curiosities are one of the most frequent topics of conversation in my sessions with young people.
Consciously and intentionally envision the life you want for your transgender child, not the life you are scared of. Imagine your transgender child happy.
This is an invitation to notice the thoughts you are choosing today and every day. Do your best to observe the thoughts gently, kindly.
Intention-setting and visioning can support you in reviewing or renewing your values and prioritizing your passions and interests.
Nature doesn’t judge your inner experience. The trees don’t care if you throw a full on toddler-level tantrum. They are still there, present, and willing to listen.