As we engage in any kind of interpersonal relationships, it’s important that we center the goal of establishing individual and collective health and safety.
When you and your child or teen reach agreements TOGETHER, the buy-in is stronger. They are more likely to follow through with genuine interest and commitment.
I have partnered with youth and families in so many different ways over the years are many-- mentor, tutor, teacher, nanny, household manager. I started my life coaching practice for teens, young adults, and their parents 3 years ago... And since then, my journey has continued to unfold.
There are self-care practices we engage in regularly to help keep our cups full, AND there will be times of intense stress, in which we need specific and sometimes more substantial self-care.
Teenagers, especially, need structure to thrive. From developing a healthy relationship with their technology and social media, to getting enough sleep (they need 9 hours on average!), to developing strong study skills or applying to college, to practicing self-care and playing, to building a social life, they have a lot to manage!
When I removed alcohol I was able to see what I needed to heal internally and externally, within myself, and my family. I realized I wasn’t the problem, alcohol was.
Now’s the time to help teens navigate questions of value and support them in understanding the importance of organization.
Parents reach out and ask, “How can we experience fewer nights of overwhelm and freak out over homework?!” And “How much should I be helping them?!”
When (not if) you make a “mistake,” you have an “opportunity to repair” the connection with your teenager.
In any decision-making opportunity, your teen has much to consider. They are simultaneously considering their own ideas, beliefs about what peers expect from them, thoughts about family norms, and images from media.