Humans have needs, and when someone else (your teen, parent, partner, friend, colleague) expresses their needs, it doesn't mean you are doing anything wrong. It just means they have needs.
As we engage in any kind of interpersonal relationships, it’s important that we center the goal of establishing individual and collective health and safety.
You want to be received without judgment. Furthermore, you don’t want to be brushed off, yelled at, written off, talked over, underestimated, laughed at, and so on.
I've learned that when I take the time to identify what I need and share it with my spouse, for example, our presence and connection are enhanced.