Relationship > Task. This is a phrase I have written on my white board near my desk. It’s one I’ve brought into my work with clients— young people and parents. It’s one I return to often in my own processing. Major thanks to my therapist for introducing this language and co-creating a container for me to explore and embody this concept.
Many young adults I’ve worked with have described this time as a sort of in-between or limbo experience. I can relate to that when I think back to my late teens and early 20s.
Sometimes stuff just feels hard. And in this space of challenge, you may want or need to get the damn thing done.
We deserve to be celebrated, treasured, and affirmed. We need and want people and spaces that do see us and love us wholly.
The idea of “not enough” is a manifestation of lack mentality or scarcity mentality. When your thinking is focused on the ways that something or someone is “not _____ enough,” you are stuck in scarcity thinking.
Sometimes our brains take us into the realm of extremes, the place of all or nothing thinking. This way of thinking is often quite harsh and not compassionate. These are…
Humans have needs, and when someone else (your teen, parent, partner, friend, colleague) expresses their needs, it doesn't mean you are doing anything wrong. It just means they have needs.
This is an invitation to notice the thoughts you are choosing today and every day. Do your best to observe the thoughts gently, kindly.
Intention-setting and visioning can support you in reviewing or renewing your values and prioritizing your passions and interests.
Nature doesn’t judge your inner experience. The trees don’t care if you throw a full on toddler-level tantrum. They are still there, present, and willing to listen.