Now’s the time to help teens navigate questions of value and support them in understanding the importance of organization.
It's an uncertain and scary time for all of us; facing the global health crisis related to COVID-19 is stressful.
You might be considering what the transition from senior year to college will mean for you personally-- for your identity, for who and how you are.
Parents reach out and ask, “How can we experience fewer nights of overwhelm and freak out over homework?!” And “How much should I be helping them?!”
You want to be received without judgment. Furthermore, you don’t want to be brushed off, yelled at, written off, talked over, underestimated, laughed at, and so on.
What would it be like to get notifications from people who light you up, make you laugh, inspire you? Do you got room for them? Are you making space for the new to come in? Would you like to be online less and IRL more?
In any decision-making opportunity, your teen has much to consider. They are simultaneously considering their own ideas, beliefs about what peers expect from them, thoughts about family norms, and images from media.
Boundaries are most effective when we feel comfortable with the container (a.k.a. limits) we are creating for ourselves. Oftentimes, boundaries help us honor the answer to the question “What do I need?”.
You can (and will) change your mind/path/course/plan along the way. And that okay. It's necessary, in fact. As you and your circumstances and the world around you changes, your choices and decisions will too.
It’s critical for teen and young adult patients to grow in their capacity to advocate for themselves and work towards handling their healthcare independently.