Relationship > Task. This is a phrase I have written on my white board near my desk. It’s one I’ve brought into my work with clients— young people and parents. It’s one I return to often in my own processing. Major thanks to my therapist for introducing this language and co-creating a container for me to explore and embody this concept.
Parents are worried that their teens are spending too much time in their rooms with the door shut, often on screens, and teens are doing their best to figure out how to stay connected and engaged during these strange times.
Many young adults I’ve worked with have described this time as a sort of in-between or limbo experience. I can relate to that when I think back to my late teens and early 20s.
Sometimes stuff just feels hard. And in this space of challenge, you may want or need to get the damn thing done.
We deserve to be celebrated, treasured, and affirmed. We need and want people and spaces that do see us and love us wholly.
Alright, so we are 17 months into this pandemic (but who's counting?!), and I am personally experiencing some new, yet familiar, waves of grief and fear. As I talk to friends, colleagues, and clients, I am hearing that I am not alone in this.
The idea of “not enough” is a manifestation of lack mentality or scarcity mentality. When your thinking is focused on the ways that something or someone is “not _____ enough,” you are stuck in scarcity thinking.
Feeling our feelings is an important practice. AND we sometimes need to help ourselves make a shift out of the heaviness or intensity of our feelings.
when we take the time to feel and then reach out to a trusting, loving other, connection can grow. I also find that when I open up and let someone know I care, I feel like my most authentic self.
Sometimes our brains take us into the realm of extremes, the place of all or nothing thinking. This way of thinking is often quite harsh and not compassionate. These are…