When you hear the word gratitude, what thoughts/feelings/beliefs come to mind? When you hear the word appreciation, what thoughts/feelings/beliefs come to mind?
“There are too many noises happening at once!” “I can’t go down that aisle, the scents are too strong!” :: screams or gasps when someone walks into the room ::…
What would it be like to get notifications from people who light you up, make you laugh, inspire you? Do you got room for them? Are you making space for the new to come in? Would you like to be online less and IRL more?
When (not if) you make a “mistake,” you have an “opportunity to repair” the connection with your teenager.
Boundaries are most effective when we feel comfortable with the container (a.k.a. limits) we are creating for ourselves. Oftentimes, boundaries help us honor the answer to the question “What do I need?”.
You can (and will) change your mind/path/course/plan along the way. And that okay. It's necessary, in fact. As you and your circumstances and the world around you changes, your choices and decisions will too.
I've learned that when I take the time to identify what I need and share it with my spouse, for example, our presence and connection are enhanced.
The fourth agreement is an invitation to keep going and keep growing. Each of the previous agreements requires significant awareness, effort, and unlearning of old patterns, and the fourth agreement, the commitment to doing our best, is the glue that helps us stick to these new beliefs.
The first agreement invites us to speak with love and kindness to and about ourselves and others; in other words, we are called to align our words with the ultimate truth-- love.
Growth is not linear; it's a spiral. You’ll hit bumps and potholes and swerve off the path from time to time, and this is just a part of the process. As you complete each revolution of the spiral, there will be challenges and struggles.