when we take the time to feel and then reach out to a trusting, loving other, connection can grow. I also find that when I open up and let someone know I care, I feel like my most authentic self.
Sometimes our brains take us into the realm of extremes, the place of all or nothing thinking. This way of thinking is often quite harsh and not compassionate. These are…
Values are beliefs that guide my actions. They are at the foundation of my intentional choices and behaviors. In other words, values can be things I hold pretty near and dear.
Humans have needs, and when someone else (your teen, parent, partner, friend, colleague) expresses their needs, it doesn't mean you are doing anything wrong. It just means they have needs.
Friendship qualms, questions, concerns, and curiosities are one of the most frequent topics of conversation in my sessions with young people.
What would it be like to get notifications from people who light you up, make you laugh, inspire you? Do you got room for them? Are you making space for the new to come in? Would you like to be online less and IRL more?
Boundaries are most effective when we feel comfortable with the container (a.k.a. limits) we are creating for ourselves. Oftentimes, boundaries help us honor the answer to the question “What do I need?”.
The fourth agreement is an invitation to keep going and keep growing. Each of the previous agreements requires significant awareness, effort, and unlearning of old patterns, and the fourth agreement, the commitment to doing our best, is the glue that helps us stick to these new beliefs.
The third agreement offers an invitation to interrupt assumptions, which come from a wounded, hurt place, rather than from truth.
The second agreement invites us to acknowledge that we are all working through the perspective of our own unique experiences.