Humans have needs, and when someone else (your teen, parent, partner, friend, colleague) expresses their needs, it doesn't mean you are doing anything wrong. It just means they have needs.
Friendship qualms, questions, concerns, and curiosities are one of the most frequent topics of conversation in my sessions with young people.
What would it be like to get notifications from people who light you up, make you laugh, inspire you? Do you got room for them? Are you making space for the new to come in? Would you like to be online less and IRL more?
Boundaries are most effective when we feel comfortable with the container (a.k.a. limits) we are creating for ourselves. Oftentimes, boundaries help us honor the answer to the question “What do I need?”.
Relationship to Social Media Status: "It's Complicated" Lately, (who am I kidding, for months and months) I've been feeling the pull to spend less time on social media, less time…
The fourth agreement is an invitation to keep going and keep growing. Each of the previous agreements requires significant awareness, effort, and unlearning of old patterns, and the fourth agreement, the commitment to doing our best, is the glue that helps us stick to these new beliefs.
The third agreement offers an invitation to interrupt assumptions, which come from a wounded, hurt place, rather than from truth.
The second agreement invites us to acknowledge that we are all working through the perspective of our own unique experiences.
I’m 33, so grateful for the ways I know myself, AND I still have a hard time being a friend sometimes. Anyone else?!