A few weeks back, I was talking with a young adult client about the ways they show up for themself. We talked about setting and reaching goals and the ways they are developing new, deeper levels of self-awareness. During the conversation, they reflected, “I don’t celebrate myself enough.”
Can you relate?
I sure can! When I think about celebrating myself, thoughts and questions start to flood my mind. I think of everything from, “But, I don’t want to brag,” to “How do I even do this?!” to “Who wants to hear about my ‘wins’ anyway?!” to “I don’t really know what this really means.”
What Does it Mean to Celebrate Myself?
You can probably recall some pretty significant ups and downs from the last year or so. There are feelings you might label heavy and or light, experiences that you describe as positive or negative, and memories that are sad or joyful and everything in between (and all mixed up sometimes, too).
You have the right to express ALL of these sensations, and furthermore, you can find great strength in this process– by celebrating yourself!
Through all of your challenges and successes, I invite you to Stop. Breathe. Feel. and to give yourself credit. See, it is not just the “big” things that you can honor, it’s every step you take in your journey.
This is what celebrating yourself is all about– slowing down, noticing your experiences, and acknowledging yourself.
How Do I Celebrate Myself?
Life can feel like a whole bunch of to-do lists and deadlines and requirements and blah blah blah. Right?!
But, you have the opportunity to witness yourself and the incredible journey you are on. This is how you begin to celebrate yourself!
When you pause and check-in, you’ll start to recognize the steps you’ve taken over the last day or week or year to get where you are at this moment.
There is so much power and strength in naming! Naming the progress you’ve made, the skills you’ve learned, the habits you’ve formed, and so on.
While there are no right or wrong ways to celebrate yourself, I recommend doing it often and consistently. This practice will support you in developing awareness, gratitude, and self-love.
3 tips for Celebrating Yourself:
- Celebrate big and little “wins!” You get to decide what to celebrate. Think broadly and generously about your celebrations. Yes, winning an award or getting admitted to college are accomplishments worth celebrating, AND finishing a book or beginning a painting or attending a new dance class or going fishing or studying hard for a test are also worth celebrating. (The truth is, you are always doing wayyyyyy more than you give yourself credit for!)
- Celebrate privately AND in community. Some celebration rituals can be kept private, just for you. Perhaps you use a journal or meditation or chocolate (one of my faves). These celebrations can be a special or intimate way for you to grow self-kindness and self-love. Other times, it can feel freeing and fun to share your celebrations out loud with friends or family or via social media. Explore the wide range of ways you can give yourself credit, and continue to notice was feels supportive, helpful, and affirming.
- Schedule celebration time. Pick a routine for yourself that allows you to sit down, reflect, and name your celebrations. For example, pick a day of the week to journal about your accomplishments over the last week. Another idea is to write down a highlight or share a photo from the day each night before bed. It might take some time and trial and error before you decide on a routine that suits you, and that’s okay!
I wish you so much joy, fun, and celebration! As you begin the process of celebrating yourself, you may find a need or desire to connect with others around you, and I invite you to explore this guide to building your support system. You are unique and incredible, and today is a good day to celebrate you!