Limits don’t negate choices. Limits aren’t consequences or punishment. Instead, limits help young people understand boundaries-- their own and other people’s.
The truth is, dreams come from one’s internal compass, not from external sources, pressures, or societal norms and expectations. Furthermore, teenagers need space to explore, reflect, experience, and process and come to their own truths, their own path.
When (not if) your teen presents an undesirable behavior or seems "shut down", you have an opportunity to ASK about it, rather than telling them about (aka lecturing them).
When (not if) you make a “mistake,” you have an “opportunity to repair” the connection with your teenager.
Are we expecting our day to go exactly as we planned it in our daydream? Are we holding so tight that we are missing out on opportunities to build relationship with our loved ones?
Sometimes, routines feel like work, even when they are supportive. Rituals, though, feel like sweet, kind self-care.
When you say "no," and your teen reacts strongly, consider these 5 Ways to Respond to Your Teenager's Meltdown, which will support them in cooling down and realizing that it all really is okay.
You've heard the refusals. Follow this sequence of questions and prompts to solve the problem together
May this time of year, the end of 2018, and the beginning of 2019 be an invitation to connect with yourself, one another, and your community. Keep reading for reminders to stay calm and happy this holiday season.
As you engage in tough and important conversations, these 3 tools will help you make a successful connection.